JOINT CUSTODY - REASONS AND BEHAVIOUR

I-INTRODUCTION.

The general preference is for a system of custody that should not separate the children from any of their two parents.

Psychologes from justice services have widely informed that in recent years the system that prevails is joint custody, although in some cases it is preferred exclusive custody (mainly from mother).

For this purpose there are some criteria which in some specific cases, is called scientific, so as to identify the main criteria from courts.

This they did, by identifying a small number of facts, that usually are considered in most reports in general way. Here are specified some of the criteria followed by the different actors in those subjects. And some suggestions are also made.

II-REASONS TO CONSIDER.

They are the following :

-a-Children are in need of both parents-Obviously sons need father and mother at the same time.

-b-Possible contradictions from the parent with exclusive custody, or the one with visirarion rights ; with its former behaviour-It is common that judges consider children preferences to parents, and take their own conclusions from explanations of each one of them. In many occasions should be better to show only what is the best for us.

-c-Possible conflicts between parents-This is an aspect that diminishes the possibilities from the parent that is affected by it. The best is to have the ability to be constantly in the best possible mood ; so as to show generosity, and obtain it from the Judge.

III-HOW TO BEHAVE WITH SOCIAL SERVICES.

These are the more useful attitudes in the interviews with social services :

-a-Show with psychologe the will to behave in son's best interest.

-b-Be ready when with psychologe to show flexibility in the grounds of the aims that we have stated in the claim-That will provide us reliability and eventually will make more difficult the lack of sympathy for our aims.

-c-Be able to credit communication between parents.

-d-Show frank relation between parents.

-e-Be able to show exchange on information about sons, between parents.

-f-Avoid different ideas about education of sons.

-g-In case exclusive custody is searched-Be able to credit risk of destabilization of sons in case opponent has custody.

-h-Try to credit the couple has been broken, but that is has nothing to do with the sons.

-i-It is always helpful, to be able to refer examples from daily life of sons.

-j-You have to know for which of the two parents , the sons have more affinity, and have this situation planned, in order to continue maintaining negotiating power at the same level.

-k-The use of Experts on our side, will always be an important asset.

-l-In case a statement from sons is agreed ; in the Court, or in the office of the Judge ; this is an important card for the parent that accompanies the child.